Sick Families

Amazing how many families don't know how sick they are. For example; how hard is it for a mother

and father with no responsibilities to their grown children, to facilitate the children being there for each other?

If one gets a graduate degree, the others would be informed and congratulations, if not gifts, would be sent.

And when there is nothing but shame and silence and lack of sharing, except to gossip

darkly and with condemnation and judgementalism....that's a very sick family.

 

Or a mother and father who can't stand the thought of their children leaving and creating their own life, so

they cling every day with phone calls and thoughts and emotions and make the children shamefully full of

guilt if they don't take care of mother and father first. They infantalize the children so they cannot become

adults and parents to another future generation. Then there are mothers and fathers who use their children

for labor because they don' t have the remotest idea of what nurture and education mean.. 

 

When you work with families, you see the destructiveness under the disguise of love. It makes me want to

up chuck when peope say things like , " our group is just like a family".